The only thing that matters is the player. Not the fan, not the coach, not the school, not even the other players. The only thing that matters is each individual player doing whatever they want.
If they want to go play for another team then go for it. If they want to show up for games then that's appreciated but they should feel free to go on a flat earth convention tour with Kyrie Irving in the middle of the season too if that's what they want.
The one thing we all agree they should never ever do is eat a bagel with cream cheese on a recruiting trip. No matter how much they might want one.