different things work for different people and i will say i had and still have a few friends who were in frats and enjoyed their time
as i said i never felt the need to join a formal group, but i will tell a story about myself and the groups
was sitting at the pub one saturday night with friends drinking and there was a group of girls next to us who were getting really, really loud and i made a comment about sorority whores when another guy at the table said "mad because they still won't screw you huh"
like i said, when you know you are an arsehole it simplifies things